7-Mar-08 Busy bringing this cheater down

All thanks to my dear Charles, Sharon, Bettina, Bettina’s husband Kelvin, Karen & Adrian who helped out in nailing this cheater down.Sorry if I disappoint anyone, the reason of reading his blog is for me to know what is he doing all these while so I can find the right time to nail him down.

Really glad that I made the first move to MSN Bettina & gave her his home address. I didn’t expect that it’s more than what it seemed. His uncle claimed that he no longer live there. What the heck??? Want me to prove that he still living there? I have pictures of his so-called home at Jalan Tenaga.

I have all the pictures taken at his home with his mum & cousin’s son Jeron. So what is that?

Without much delay, Bettina gave me Kelvin’s number & we arranged to meet at 7pm at my dear’s home so he can pick us up from there.

On another hand, I called Karen (Luckily I didn’t delete her Friendster Messages) who is another prey of this cheater. But too bad, she’s tied down with work so she won’t be joining with us to go to Jalan Tenaga to confront his family.

As promised, Charles & me waited for Kelvin & one of his friend but without Bettina as she’s still in confinement. They arrived & headed off to his ‘home’.

Uncle is very shocked to see me and after telling the truth of what he has owe me even shocked him, his mother & Jessie who are all at home. It’s a blessing that auntie is not at home, if not it will be long chitting session.

Kelvin settled his case quite steady but it’s stupid to damage a girl’s reputation. Especially a girl that I know. Owe ppl $ and still spreading bad rumors around. What is he trying to do?

At first, I talked to his mother & Jessie. Telling them his company is fake. He loaned the $ from me but didn’t return after I left him. I’m not surprise that his mum told me that HE told her that I’m at Philippines for work. WHAT BULLSHIT? I warned them that he’s not working & even worst writing scandal on his blog to cheat more ppl. I told them very clearly. It’s not the $. I’m really very angry for what he has done to me. He LIES to me ALL THE TIME. Do you lie to someone you love??? No, right? I’m bringing my all to help him & he cheated me again & again. It’s not fair for me & write bad things about me in his blog, even better right? Think I stupid, let him scold? I’m just keeping quiet and planned all these. Gathering information to bring him down.

Something new is that his family told me it’s not his first time already. Good, they better know what to do. I got enough evidences to let him really rest in peace. I will never trust his words, I want actions.

His uncle is very honest & he gave us his words that we need to give him some time to give us an answer as the amount is too big. My patience has a limit so any UNFORSEEN circumstances, I will go the legal way.

For all the things he accused on me, verbal apologize will not heal the damage he has done to me.

He can be found here online cheating all people (mainly girls) in Friendster and Blog.

Alan Koh Boon Chuan
20-Aug-1973

Cheated:
Crystal $10946.51
Bettina $240
Karen $700

Karen’s friend $100
… and so on…

His company is fake, his s*x scandal is fake. Basically everything. Only thing that is real is that his bank account is always less than $10. But now it’s full of my money… Good grace…

If you are one of the victim, contact me at www.friendster.com/crystalxue. I’m glad to give you his full details so you can lodge a police report. Karen already have 1 report against him. I just love GOD~~

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I’m very glad that alot of my friends noticed me and concerned about me & lending a helping hand. Yes, I lost alot of $ but what I want is to nail him down & bring him to hell for cheating my love for him. I wouldn’t bear to let another girl to fall for his traps. Especially his cousin Sheila who is now at Shanghai with her parents Auntie Rose & Uncle Joe. I know they are rich & he will find all his ways to migrate there to live with them. But sorry, that’s my $ that he’s taking with him. I have to make sure he can’t leave singapore. That’s my motive. I don’t think he will ever change cos he’s pro in cheating so I’m planning the next step already. :)Sometimes I wonder what exactly am I capable in. I’m so strong that I want others to know what is happening. Next move will that be newspaper? I believe 新明 & 晚报 love these kind of juicy story. Isn’t it? I’m still waiting for the appropriate answer… *Can sleep already YAWNZ*

~ Revengeful Nini ~

Bastard!!! Asshole!!!

Think I’m feeling better after that… NB…

Jim -The Thoughtful Husband…

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them.  Some are over-sensitive, and there’s nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman. My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work and although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don’t yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men’s Grill at the club so eating out twice is not reasonable. I’m ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door.

She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it’s not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won’t clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take ’em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won’t have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn’t hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I try not to make a scene. I’m a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I’m not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will even find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older.

 

However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

Signed
Jim
EDITOR’S NOTE:
Jim died suddenly on May 27 of a perforated rectum. The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby.  His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder.  The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defence that Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.    

20-Feb-08 When you can do anything for love….

My lunch with Shar. Long long time din have mee pok le…

My mo-ping face… Finally my ear is recovering & my earring finally shows up but still abit red red…

Amazing how things turn out to be. Not something I expect but at least now I see things clearly. See things that I din know in the past…

I’m really scare of going home. Thinking that whether I will die or not… It’s naturally isn’t it? I’m actually more afraid of his hurting words… When you experience those hurting words, then you will know how I feel… But I guess only I know it for now….

I’m very lucky that my dear allows me to hide at his place for the time being. He even make effort into fetching me at bus stop where he seldom do it in the past. Very sweet of him…

Was still feeling very down but when I’m being greet by the 2 rascals, everything feels so nice & my mood indeed improves alot. They have grow taller abit & talks even more now with ‘Crystal Jiejie’ keeps coming to my ears until I buay tahan also… Which make his home more noisy but when it becomes quiet, I believe I won’t get use to it also…

With a much happier mood, I slowly noticed that my dear has slim down alot le… So kelian… He’s already skinny enough le, now even more skeleton then before… Still can feel that he’s still quiet but trying to be open to me and really care for me. Without a word, he prepare bread for me knowing that I didn’t have my lunch. All these, I really appreciate cos I know he wants nothing in return. All he wants is me being happy & honest to him…

As usual, I got busy with work. Yes, after office hours…. What can I do??? I’m so depressed & stressed during office hours that I ended up on the phone since noon… So no work was done… Still there’s pending work and I’m paid to do work… So I do it after settling my bread in my stomach. Got really tired after that, means I got use my brains…

Very happy that his family still accepts me after what I have done to him… The power of love really can change alot of things. It melts everyone’s heart but will incur something opposite as well, depends on what one’s think.

Was shocked to see his blog… Indeed it did hurt me alot but who cares, right? I wonder who is the married man that I slept with & with a name called Vinz. Yes, I do know someone called Vinz. He’s my online msn friend & we never met, whether he’s married or not, I do not know. Now I know why I got a weird internet sms by a person called Vinz finally. He must have mistaken me of someone else & might have my number from him cos like I said before, only my family, Gary & Ginny got my number. Truely surprise me… When I asked Vinz through msn, asking him how come he got my mobile, he was puzzled too. Now I tell him all these, he’s doubly puzzled… His message makes me laugh: ‘long distance over the air sex?’, he really makes me laugh… And thanks Vinz for scolding me & wake me up. I get your point but I believe ppl easily… It really puzzled me out & I kept squeezing my brains out thinking who is that guy…. In my life, I only involved 2 married men… Of course, both I can’t say who to protect them from divorcing so no one know who are they & I never mention to anyone unless they want to hurt their wives. Only 1 that I slept with who treats me very well and we ended our relationship when I start relationship with Charles. From then onwards, we don’t really communicate too… We know our limits. And only my dear knows who he is. 🙂

I don’t know why he thinks that I’m with him cos of his $, maybe bcos he thinks that he has wasted all his $ on me. Still I lose more than 1k of my $ and ended up pawning my gold. Not only the GE loan that I took up recently to help. Yes, 7k of loan. I know I must be stupid, when u in love, u will do anything right? I believe eric is reading these and he should know that 3 yrs 7k loan will result in me paying $271 monthly. As I said super long ago that the money that I loaned out I have to keep in mind that I will have to repay it myself… Cos no matter what, the loan is under my name. I’m still glad that I’m able to help in some ways… That’s what I have kept to myself all these while. Don’t want others to worry about me, just want to solve it myself. At least I know I did not steal or do illegal things. I just want to repay my debts slowly for now. In another 1-2 mths time, I have to worry about car insurance, worst case scenario, I have to sell car or get ntuc monthly insurance. Sorry april & mic, I didn’t have chance to save up for your angbao cos I never thot I will go to your wedding & thanks for inviting. 🙂

For all that I have lose, I know I can earn back the $, I can pawn back my gold. I’m still contented with what I have.

Today is very sweet day where dear send me to work even though he’s tired for sleeping late. Blur me forget my lappy and sotong me gets to meet up with him one more time with another goodbye kiss… Hehehe…

Very normal day that I get to eat breakfast & lunch with Shar. No Will today cos he’s on leave… Very busy day as usual… Headache came & lucky I got kopi to suppress it for awhile. Don’t think it will last long… Just feeling tired…

Glad to off work soon & waiting to meet my love again…

Realise one thing, when nothing happens, nobody will read my bloggy… When something happens, my bloggy hits amazingly increase… @_@

Very sweet of Ika my Indonesia friend & april for the support. Never know I’m being watched by them… Haha.. But it’s ok, my blog is for public so I’m fine with it. Just feeling sweet to have them around me and providing the support. Thanks!!!

Why why why????

Why you want to destroy me???? I know I did u wrong for lying to you… I still care for you and sms u to check whether you are ok… I hate the way you say things, all these negative things. If you feel disgusting for having me by your side then don’t ever ask me to come back… I’m so disheartened & thot u just need me to be around but I’m wrong… You just not happy how I treat you badly all these while… But have you really make me feel good???

I’m so scare of your words & threatens… That’s y I stayed on… I tried so hard to accomodate u but only realise that I’m just trying to prevent u from hurting me & my family….

I can’t do anything now but to wait for the things you gonna do to me… Be it, you do it to my car, my parents, my sis or charles, you will be doing yourself really wrong… Cos you forget you still have a mother who will be heart broken when she finds out… Haiz….

I didn’t expect being with someone will cause me to be hurt by him… If I do, I won’t have started it… *Stupid me*

Sorry is no longer effective

Today Alan told me that I will have 2 choices, to follow what he says or go against him & get ready to face that my family & charles will be harm… I was shocked… Even my job will be gone… I’m sad cos I know I did wrong to him but I can only see what will happen…

19-Feb-08 When the truth is more than what it seemed

Nice view that I enjoy seeing… Windy also

Really go buy 4d as promised, I’m lucky as my bus came first cos this bus usually came very late due to low frequency. And I really walk all the way home.. Walk at least 4-5 bus stops distance. Felt giddy & tired after a while, gosh, I got so weak meh? Have to piggy back my laptop as my internet is still unstable. Stupid mio…

Reached home & realise mama cook alot… When seeing my bro came home, then i know why liao… Hahaha.. But also good, i get to eat dinner since I only eat doughnuts for lunch.

Never will I know the truth starts slapping at me… I’m really sad when I get to know alot of things only when I decide to leave… Am I so scary or is it so hard to talk to me? I really blame myself for not seeing the signs, I’m stupid leh, how to see????

Felt even sadder and cried myself to sleep cos I know I gonna lose someone important that I cannot repent for what I have done to him… I don’t wish to make him unhappy further, just want him to be happy as always. If he needs anything or help, I will do my best… But I doubt he will ever ask… Cos I know what he wants is actions that came from my heart… But I usually listen to what other wants and do it… Weird hor? I’m not good at that, i guess…

~ Please don’t wait until u lose them then you say that you love them ~

18-Feb-08 Letting go finally

I believe everyone will be wondering why why why… He has been looking for answers from me on why I left him…

When we met for the first time, I really take him as a friend. I never thot we will be together. As I used to read his blog, I know he got alot of lovers. So I take that I’m one of his lovers too. I know he’s a sweet guy who treats ppl very well. At that time, I’m still with my bf… I thot he understand that I can’t commit… But I was wrong… I left my bf cos of the way he treats me but it was only for that one incident. I don’t really mean to leave him…

Just like that he assure me of a new relationship, and I found out that he’s taking me seriously when he came back from SH. I was in the middle of decision… I was so stubborn that I decide not to forgive him cos of what he has done before & accept the new relationship…

During our relationship, everything went well. Until he finds out that I’m meeting my ex behind his back… Yes, I did but I never know he takes me as a gf. I was devastated. I felt sad but I tried working hard to gain his trust. But ever since, no matter what I do, he can’t convince what I say. Even when my phone line was down due to installation of mio, he don’t believe. I go see doctor with my mama, he don’t believe. I felt the pressure that I don’t dare to face.

Slowly his expectation increases, I have to greet every members in his family. I have to learn to say thanks when I receive something & sorry for the wrong things I done. Slowly I find that I’m not in tune with him. I can’t cope all these simple things he wanted me to do.

I know I’m a bored person as compare to other gfs he had. I tried my best to fetch him every night for dinner. Bring his family out when possible. I don’t ask for anything in return.

I never will look down on someone who is running low in $, I have that kind of experience, so I know how he felt…. So I only thot of helping him whatever I can. I maybe causing myself into deep trouble but I know I did the right thing to help him…

Finally I have to let go cause from his blog post, I finally know how he felt deeply inside his heart. He’s just fulfilling his duty as a bf. I understand that cause I have a feeling that I’m just fulfilling my duty as a gf… I really need my life back cause I know future with him is very hazy, I don’t even dare to think, especially the moment he mention the word ‘future’, I totally wake up.

I know I have let him down for so long, I just want him to get what he deserve and not stressed & bad luck being with me… I been through that I know how hard it is to be stuck…

But because of him, I realised who really love me and stand by me no matter what I do. I realise all these is a mistake. My grave mistake that I will regret for the rest of my life…

17-Feb-08

Sleep the whole day… Worst day ever but I will be fine… Some day I guess.

Realise I’m just someone ppl don’t like, no wonder I felt so uncomfortable. I thought it’s just my imagination. I guess I can only blame that I’m not the right person who worth all that.

At least now I know my $ problem I just bear it myself. I will feel better that way. At least I’m not hindering anyone further. That’s the good thing of being alone. Having burden to ownself with no expectation from others.

16-Feb-08 Jog to live

@ YCK Stadium

Me acting cool but actually resting after jogging :p

My running shoes bought by Alex

Woke up late and went for jogging at YCK Stadium with dardar. Only jog 2 rounds then stop. Just feeling tired.

Went to watch L @ Century Square then send dar home & went home. Can’t sleep at all.. So good for me…